How do you know what you experience is real?
I’m not trolling here. tl;dr, in the past I have been gaslighted into oblivion & I doubt everything & I’m really struggling with this.
You need to break everything in order to be free of doubt. There is no way to validate any experience, I can only accept what I perceive. Perception is based on deletion, distortion and generalisation. There are many messages from the environment which are simply deleted because you do not need to think about them such as how many blades of grass are in a field, the sound of the fridge humming, the feeling of your foot. You can feel your foot attached, but since the messages are not important at this moment they are deleted.
When a person speaks and you hear only select things, people actually delete words from a sentence if they don’t make sense or if the person disagrees (but doesn’t want to.) They change the meanings of words to fit their world view. That is distortion, ever wondered how people seem to deliberately misunderstand what you are saying? It’s not you at fault, they are simply receiving a different message to the one you are sending. If you want them to get the right message you have to change the information so that they distort it in the right way.
Speaking of distortion, people with emotional and mental ‘handicaps’ see and hear very different things from you, a person who hallucinates is definitely convinced of what they see. The reason these people are considered disable is because their perceptions and reactions are rejected by the majority, so finding someone to agree with you is your strongest evidence of reality. (Perhaps this is why spirit work is so hard to believe, because the majority have no aptitude for it.)
Generalising is most blatantly used when we present information, it is an excellent method of communication for leaders to use because the masses distort it to mean what they want to hear. An example of generalising received information is the difference between the way you see a knife and chef sees a knife, the way a carpenter views a wooden chair, the way an environment conservationist sees a woodland.
You could be locked in a padded room creating every single day in your head, including this text. Better to accept the information you think you are receiving than reject it on the basis of other peoples projected reality. Other people are always wrong.